No Guts, No Story!

My entire life– my whole existence–this is probably the thing I have been searching for.

Guts are composed of two parts: GUTS and GUT. Both are equally important to the whole.

GUT is where you should start. Gut requires you to have instinct, and listen to it. When you need to know what to do, gut should respond with an appropriate direction– even if you don’t understand why. More often than not, it should be right.

GUTS is the second part of the equation. When you have guts, you can do what is necessary. You can do what GUT tells you to do. Without guts, you can’t go where you need to go, no matter how drawn to it you are.

So both parts, GUTS and GUT, are necessary. But how do you get them?

I believe it comes down to environmental pressure. So the question is not “why was I not born with a good instinct” (GUT) or “a huge set of balls” (GUTS), but rather, “how can I set up my environment so these things develop naturally?”

For some people this happened as children. For others, not so much– it needs to be groomed into you, and nobody else will do it for you, because nobody else really cares that much whether you have them.

I just finished a piece of work (stay tuned) that tries to address the problem of GUTS. But I suspect I have only just begun to truly understand it. Then, GUT, its twin, needs to be figured out as well.

A guy could spend his whole life on these things, if he were so inclined. Once you develop these two, I suspect anyone with even an average level of intelligence could do amazing things.

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Social Media Networking – Helpful!

We live in a time where more information and resources are available than ever.

The Internet has made it possible to connect with people you would have never been able to otherwise. Social media provides us with the incredible power to reach out to anyone.

With all the resources that come with the so-called “information age” we live in, many of us squander the benefits of access by reading useless websites or following celebrities– a huge waste of time.

Think about it. There are hundreds of people out there who are either doing what you want to be doing. There are thousands you can learn from. It’s easier than ever to find and meet these people. All it takes is a little time and effort.

This week I am challenging you to do something we often talk about, but rarely act on: find a mentor.

Here’s how you will do that.

Homework.

Today’s homework is to reach out to someone you don’t already know and ask for advice.

Even though this can be scary and uncomfortable, the returns can be enormous. People are hesitant because it feels “forced” and they don’t want to look like they’re taking and not giving.

One way to alleviate this is to ask: “What do I have to offer this person?”

The value that you offer could be anything from user experience feedback, to talking about a shared interest. When you think of it as a shared give-and-take, it’ll feel more natural and less like some kind of networking exercise.

Take a minute a write down a few things you have to offer someone.

One great place to find potential mentors is at events. Go to events, conferences, and meet-ups, ready to ask questions. If you show genuine enthusiasm, you’ll have already established a good rapport and connection, which will make everything that much easier.

If going to an event is too scary, you can also build a relationship from email or Twitter. Almost everyone responds well to tweets–sometimes even better than email. Even if they don’t, you won’t have lost anything by reaching out.

Don’t forget to use the network that you already have. Make a short post on Twitter or Facebook, asking your friends if they know anyone who is an expert in knitting, coding, writing, or whatever else.

As you do this, you’ll discover that it’s not actually that painful. Most people are more than willing to share their knowledge with someone who is interested. There is absolutely no risk in reaching out – and who knows, you may find an invaluable life-long mentor just by taking this one step.

So choose someone. Reach out to them and offer to meet them.

Arrogant People’s Arrogance! Facing them in Society!

Meaning of Arrogance – an insulting way of thinking or behaving that comes from believing that you are better, smarter, or more important than other people.

If you meet a lot of people, you know this of course. I’m not teaching you anything. Those of us that travel for a living have to contend with all kinds of people and take it in stride. We get better at it but things can still hit us the wrong way.

I’d argue that most people in social media are actually pretty sensitive, so we get get hurt more than we would probably like to admit to.

The position I’ve started to take with those that are arrogant is that they’re simply on the defense with their views. They’re not into questioning them; they’ve already decided they’re right and they’re unlikely to change.

In fact, I largely divide the world into those on offense and those on defense, but that’s another idea altogether.

Anyway, your first line of defense (eh) when dealing with arrogance should always be the shrug, which says “he’s an asshole, but I’m brushing it off.” It’s an important idea because the more we think about how someone upset us, the more mind-space and energy we give it. The more we give it our attention, the more power it has.

What arrogance effectively tells you, when you read between the lines, is: “I am done learning on this subject. I’ve learned enough. I know what I need to.” Humility says the opposite.

Often, we don’t know what we, ourselves, are expressing to others when we take a certain stance. This is one of those times. It applies to others, but also ourselves.

Next time you’re in a debate, ask yourself if someone is on offense or defense. If they’re neither, then you know you have someone you can learn from (and vice-versa). The calmest ones are always the most certain– and the arrogant are not calm.

Maybe that’s why they’re arrogant– maybe they aren’t so sure themselves?

Pursuit to Happiness!

Happiness – yes, we’re brushing through the topic once again!

Moreover, it is an emotion. People constantly tweak their life in the pursuit to attain it, just to find themselves back at square one pretty soon. Exactly because it is an emotion. Any combination of sugar, spice, and everything nice doesn’t seem to create the perfect stable form of happiness for them.

This article says about ways to improve your life in the next 3 months. It is a pretty long list. Ironically though, having too many items in any personal list is a deviation from happiness.

Below are few points I picked from the article (coincidentally 10). These daily steps, I feel, can make a whole lot of dissatisfied, bored, or still-on-The-pursuit folks reach out to happiness.
So here comes:

(I’ve ticked ✔ those points that I’ve been following already, inevitably with minor/major discontinuities; That’s life!)

#1
Live by the mantra: a place for everything and everything in its place. That is, have a definite place for all your things so that you can figure them out even in the dark (especially useful when you have aggressive kittens at home ).

#2
Have a good laugh at least once a day: get one of those calendars that has a different joke for every day of the year, or stop by a web site that features your favorite cartoon.
Or have friends/family who can be real good laughing buddies.

#3
Make it a point to learn at least one new thing each day: the name of a flower that grows in your garden, the capital of a far-off country, or the name of a piece of classical music you hear playing in your favorite clothing boutique as you shop. If it’s time for bed and you can’t identify anything you’ve learned that day, take out your dictionary and learn a new word.
(Geeky folks, learn about new programming languages/libraries of course!)

#4
Make it a point to feed your mind with the thoughts, words, and images that are most consistent with who you want to be, what you want to have, and what you want to achieve.
Cluelessness regarding the text in italics is understood

#5
Stop multi-tasking; do one thing at a time without distractions.

#6
Plan your day the night before.

#7
Spend a few minutes at the end of each day organizing your desk, filing papers, and making sure that your work area is clean and orderly, so that you can walk in to a neat desk the next day.

#8
Connect with someone new every day, whether it’s by greeting a neighbor you’ve never spoken to before, following someone new on Twitter, leaving a comment on a blog you’ve never commented on before, and so on.

#9 (not a daily thing, so no tick)
Make it a point to associate with people you admire, respect and want to be like.

#10
Stay in your own life and don’t compare yourself to anyone else.

That’s it!

A bonus point is to:
Keep reminding yourself that everyone is doing the best that they can. Everyone and everyone.

Importance of Sports and Games!

Sports and games are very important for us. They keep us healthy and fit. They offer us a change from the monotony of daily life. It is a useful means of entertainment and physical activity. Sports and games help in character building.

Sports and games are means of mental and physical growth. During sports we come to learn many things. We learn how to maintain mental balance in the midst of hopes and despair. They make us learn how to tackle the difficult situation. Sports develop a sense of friendliness. They develop in us team spirit. They help in developing mental and physical toughness. They shape our body and make it strong and active. They give us energy and strength. They remove tiredness and lethargy. They improve blood circulation. This improves our physical well-being.

Sports and games improve our capability. They improve our efficiency. Either study or work alone makes us exhaust. We remain no longer efficient to do any work. Sports remove our mental exhaustion. Sports are integral part of education. Education without sports is incomplete. Keeping their value in life, children are taught some sorts of games in the very early stage in school. These days’ sports are a part of academic curricula.

Sports are particularly important for the youth. They help in their physical and mental growth. They contribute in the formation of character. They inculcate in them good values. It is therefore, sports competition is held at school and college levels. The students who perform well in this competition are promoted to play at the national and international level. Thus sports help in career growth also.

Sports and games give us opportunity to grow in life. These days’ sports have been commercialized. They have become a good means of earning. The sports person who does well in sports is showered with name, fame and wealth. He becomes a hero overnight. Sports have great potential to offer career opportunities. So we should take them very seriously from the very early age of our life. Sports are good means of earnings. Sports offer opportunity to prove talents.

Thus, sports have great value in life. Sports facilities are being developed in rural and semi-urban areas. There are playgrounds in villages. Sports infrastructure are being developed everywhere so as to promote them. Various sport organizations are also doing well in promotion of sports.