We’ve all heard it a thousand times,“You need to forgive and forget.” But is this truly how we feel? When someone really hurts you, do you still want to forgive that person? Forgiving seems almost unnatural, right?
The whole problem with the world is that fools and fanatics are always so certain of themselves, and wiser people so full of doubts.
We are often confronted with innumerable problems in our daily lives. It is usually unwelcome in our lives and we would prefer if the problems never arose. Each of us has a unique way to deal with life’s problems or challenges as one might like to call them. Have we observed our own peculiar traits with respect to how we deal with our problems ?
“Never cry because you have mountains of problem in your hands to solve. Always smile because each problems will someday resolve.”
Before I even talk about the preferred way of dealing with the little challenges, let me first state that these are really events that remove the boredom from our lives and bring in excitement. If we were to look at the challenges in this new light, we might even welcome them and look forward to the next one!
“Life is not easy. We all have problems-even tragedies-to deal with, and luck has nothing to do with it. Bad luck is only the superstitious excuse for those who don’t have the wit to deal with the problems of life.”
Instead to complaining about the problems and wishing that someone else deals with it or procrastinating about it, I feel the right way would be to think of solutions to resolve the problems. It should be viewed as puzzles that life throws up and our responsibility is to rack our brains and come up with the right answers.
Likewise, in an organisational context, one should always use the approach of identifying problems and coming up with the solutions. It is a good trait to be able to spot the problem but no one appreciates someone who is always criticizing or complaining but is unable to provide the direction for resolving the open issues.
People who complain fall into the group of negative behaviors while solution oriented people are seen as positive and find recognition and rewards waiting for them all the time.
“Your attachment to unhealthy people and bad habits, which offer you no real control, is why you’re spiritually dying and living a life out of balance.”
So, Which side are you aligned on ?
“The key is this: Meet today’s problems with today’s strength. Don’t start tackling tomorrow’s problems until tomorrow. You do not have tomorrow’s strength yet. You simply have enough for today.”
A successful businessman was growing old and knew it was time to choose a successor to take over the business.
Instead of choosing one of his Directors or his children, he decided to do something different. He called all the young executives in his company together.
He said, “It is time for me to step down and choose the next C.E.O..
I have decided to choose one of you.”
The young executives were shocked, but the boss continued.
“I am going to give each one of you a SEED today – one very special SEED. I want you to plant the seed, water it, and come back here one year from today with what you have grown from the seed I have given you. I will then judge the plants that you bring, and the one I choose will be the next C.E.O..”
One man, named Jim, was there that day and he, like the others, received a seed. He went home and excitedly told his wife the story. She helped him get a pot, soil and compost and he planted the seed.
Everyday he would water it and watch to see if it had grown. After about three weeks, some of the other executives began to talk about their seeds and the plants that were beginning to grow.
Jim kept checking his seed but nothing ever grew. Three weeks, four weeks, five weeks went by, still nothing. By now others were talking about their plants, but Jim didn’t have a plant and he felt like a failure.
Six months went by — still nothing in Jim’s pot. He just knew he had killed his seed. Everyone else had trees and tall plants, but he had nothing. Jim didn’t say anything to his colleagues, however, he just kept watering and fertilizing the soil – he so wanted the seed to grow.
A year finally went by and all the young executives of the company brought their plants to the C.E.O. for inspection. Jim told his wife that he wasn’t going to take an empty pot. But she asked him to be honest about what happened.
Jim felt sick to his stomach, it was going to be the most embarrassing moment of his life, but he knew his wife was right.
He took his empty pot to the boardroom. When Jim arrived, he was amazed at the variety of plants grown by the other executives. They were beautiful — in all shapes and sizes. Jim put his empty pot on the floor and many of his colleagues laughed, a few felt sorry for him!
When the C.E.O. arrived, he surveyed the room and greeted his young executives. Jim just tried to hide in the back.
“My, what great plants, trees, and flowers you have grown,” said the C.E.O.. “Today one of you will be appointed the next C.E.O.!”
All of a sudden, the C.E.O. spotted Jim at the back of the room with his empty pot. He ordered the Financial Director to bring him to the front. Jim was terrified. He thought, “The C.E.O. knows I’m a failure! Maybe he will have me fired!”
When Jim got to the front, the C.E.O. asked him what had happened to his seed – Jim told him the story.
The C.E.O. asked everyone to sit down except Jim. He looked at Jim, and then announced to the young executives, “Behold your next Chief Executive Officer! His name is Jim!”
Jim couldn’t believe it. Jim couldn’t even grow his seed.
“How could he be the new C.E.O.?” the others said.
Then the C.E.O. said,
“One year ago today, I gave everyone in this room a seed. I told you to take the seed, plant it, water it, and bring it back to me today. But I gave you all boiled seeds; they were dead – it was not possible for them to grow.
All of you, except Jim, have brought me trees and plants and flowers. When you found that the seed would not grow, you substituted another seed for the one I gave you. Jim was the only one with the courage and honesty to bring me a pot with my seed in it. Therefore, he is the one who will be the new Chief Executive Officer!”
* If you plant honesty, you will reap trust
* If you plant goodness, you will reap friends
* If you plant humility, you will reap greatness
* If you plant perseverance, you will reap contentment
* If you plant consideration, you will reap perspective
* If you plant hard work, you will reap success
* If you plant forgiveness, you will reap reconciliation
So, be careful what you plant now; it will determine what you will reap later.
“Whatever You Give To Life, Life Gives You Back”