A Letter by Father | Santhosh DR

Following is a letter to his daughter from a renowned Hong Kong TV broadcaster and Child Psychologist. The words are actually applicable to all of us, young or old, children or parents.!

This applies to all sons and daughters too. All parents can use this in their teachings to their children.

Dear Children,

I am writing this to you because of 3 reasons

A) Life, fortune and mishaps are unpredictable, nobody knows how long he lives.
B) I am your father, and if I don’t tell you these, no one else will.
C) Whatever written is my own personal bitter experiences that perhaps could save you a lot of unnecessary heartaches.

Remember the following as you go through life

1. Do not bear grudge towards those who are not good to you. No one has the responsibility of treating you well, except your mother and I. To those who are good to you, you have to treasure it and be thankful, and ALSO you have to be cautious, because, everyone has a motive for every move. When a person is good to you, it does not mean he really will be good to you. You have to be careful, don’t hastily regard him as a real friend.

2. No one is indispensable, nothing is in the world that you must possess.
Once you understand this idea, it would be easier for you to go through life when people around you don’t want you anymore, or when you lose what you wanted the most.

3. Life is short. When you waste your life today, tomorrow you would find that life is leaving you. The earlier you treasure your life, the better you enjoy life.

4. Love is nothing but a transient feeling, and this feeling would fade with time and with one’s mood. If your so called loved one leaves you, be patient, time will wash away your aches and sadness.

Don’t over exaggerate the beauty and sweetness of love, and don’t over exaggerate the sadness of falling out of love.

5. A lot of successful people did not receive a good education, that does not mean that you can be successful by not studying hard! Whatever knowledge you gain is your weapon in life.

One can go from rags to riches, but one has to start from some rags!

6. I do not expect you to financially support me when I am old, neither would I financially support your whole life. My responsibility as a supporter ends when you are grown up. After that, you decide whether you want to travel in a public transport or in your limousine, whether rich or poor.

7. You honour your words, but don’t expect others to be so. You can be good to people, but don’t expect people to be good to you. If you don’t understand this, you would end up with unnecessary troubles.

8. I have bought lotteries for umpteen years, but could never strike any prize. That shows if you want to be rich, you have to work hard! There is no free lunch!

9. No matter how much time I have with you, let’s treasure the time we have together. We do not know if we would meet again in our next life.

Your Parents

Read it twice! Ask your son and daughter to read it thrice.

Worth.A.Read!

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Don’t Take Anything Personally | Santhosh DR

Whatever people think of you is really about the image they have of you, and that image isn’t you. All their opinions about you really concern the character who lives in their story, not in yours. If someone gives you an opinion and says, “Hey, you look fat,” the truth is that this person is dealing with his or her own feelings, beliefs, and opinions. That person tried to send poison to you, and if you take it personally, it’s because you agree with whatever was said. As soon as you agree, you take that poison and it becomes yours. But if you don’t agree, whatever that person says will not affect you.

Taking things personally makes you easy prey for the predators who want to feed you their emotional poison. They can hook you easily with one little opinion, and because you take it personally, you eat all their poison. But if you do not take it personally, you are immune to the poison, and that is the gift of the second agreement.

By taking things personally, you make something big out of something so little, and you set yourself up to suffer for nothing. When you take things personally, you feel offended, and your reaction is to defend your beliefs. You have the need to be right and make others wrong, and this creates conflict. When you make it a strong habit not to take anything personally, you avoid many upsets in your life. Someone can intentionally send you emotional poison, and because you don’t eat it, your anger, jealousy, and envy will disappear. Even your sadness will simply disappear if you don’t take things personally.

Once you can see that nothing others say or do is about you, it doesn’t matter who gossips about you, who blames you, who rejects you, who disagrees with your point of view. When you take nothing personally, you don’t even bother to defend your point of view. Whatever people say doesn’t affect you because you are immune to their opinions and their emotional poison.

Don’t take anything personally is a beautiful tool of interaction with your own kind, human to human. And it’s a big ticket to personal freedom because you don’t have to rule your life according to other people’s opinions. This really frees you! You can do whatever you want to do, knowing that whatever you do has nothing to do with anyone but you.

Once you understand that all humans live in their own world, in their own dream, the second agreement is pure common sense: Don’t take anything personally.

What’s the size of God? | Santhosh DR

A boy asked the father: What’s the size of God? Then the father looked up to the sky and seeing an airplane asked the son: What’s the size of that airplane? The boy answered: It’s very small. I can barely see it.

So the father took him to the airport and as they approached an airplane he asked: And now, what is the size of this one? The boy answered: Wow daddy, this is huge!

Then the father told him: God, is like this, His size depends on the distance between you and Him. The closer you are to Him, the greater He will be in your life! 😊

Forgiveness Is A Virtue? | Santhosh DR

In this level, the person is unable to forgive the offender and keeps on thinking about him and the unpleasant event over and over again. The effect is not only so much pain and suffering in the current lifetime, but also extended emotional attachments and problems in the future incarnations.

According to great spiritual teachers including Master Choa Kok Sui, two things bind souls together: love and hatred.

By loving a person deeply, there are higher chances of meeting and being with the beloved soul in the future incarnations. These are the people that we love and feel comfortable and connected with even from the first few moments of being together.

The sad news is that “hatred” also binds souls together as there is a lesson in the relationship to be learnt. The lesson is love!

Therefore the relationship between the two souls who hate each other often gets closer and closer, to teach them to love one another. Most of the couples that have difficult relationships, parents and children who cannot get along, brothers and sisters that have a hard time being together fall under this category. They need to learn to love each other, break the wicked cycle and let go.

“Anger and Hatred bind people together! When you Hate someone, it creates an “Energy Link” with the person. You become chained to the person and your Soul becomes entangled with that person. If you want to be free, you must Forgive people.”

Master Choa Kok Sui