In this level, the person is unable to forgive the offender and keeps on thinking about him and the unpleasant event over and over again. The effect is not only so much pain and suffering in the current lifetime, but also extended emotional attachments and problems in the future incarnations.
According to great spiritual teachers including Master Choa Kok Sui, two things bind souls together: love and hatred.
By loving a person deeply, there are higher chances of meeting and being with the beloved soul in the future incarnations. These are the people that we love and feel comfortable and connected with even from the first few moments of being together.
The sad news is that “hatred” also binds souls together as there is a lesson in the relationship to be learnt. The lesson is love!
Therefore the relationship between the two souls who hate each other often gets closer and closer, to teach them to love one another. Most of the couples that have difficult relationships, parents and children who cannot get along, brothers and sisters that have a hard time being together fall under this category. They need to learn to love each other, break the wicked cycle and let go.
“Anger and Hatred bind people together! When you Hate someone, it creates an “Energy Link” with the person. You become chained to the person and your Soul becomes entangled with that person. If you want to be free, you must Forgive people.”
Master Choa Kok Sui
Live & Let Live
We’ve all heard it a thousand times,“You need to forgive and forget.” But is this truly how we feel? When someone really hurts you, do you still want to forgive that person? Forgiving seems almost unnatural, right?
Life is short. With an average age of around 60 years of which a good 20 odd years spent in sleep and resting, we have hardly 40-45 years of waking time. If one takes off the time spent in childhood pranks and old age sickness, one hardly has 20-25 years of productive time. This is just too short to be wasted on undesirable pursuits and practices..When we feel hurt and remember hurt, we are only re-living the experience over and over again. And when we hope, pray or plan to hurt others or take revenge, we are going through the same pain again. Anger is like carrying a burning coal in your hand with an intent of throwing it at others. You are only hurting yourself.
Great saying: “There are no mistakes. Only lessons”.
To forgive someone is the highest, most beautiful form of love. You might just find that you get a sense of peace and happiness in return 🙂
Instead, if you can ignore, forgive and forget, you are instantly relieved of the burden and find instant peace. It gives you more time for productive pursuits, ideating or creating things that bring joy to yourself and others around you. It creates a positive image about you and makes you irresistible in the eyes of others.
Gandhi once said “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” It takes a strong person to face pain head-on, forgive, and release it.
Think of children and this is what distinguishes them from adults. They have no ego and forgive easily. This is what makes them so lovable and endearing to us. So do yourself a big favour – start forgiving and forgetting from this moment onwards. The past traits and image will fall off immediately and you will reap the benefits form this instance onwards. Enjoy Life !!
If none of the above appeals to you, then you might want to take the advice of Oscar Wilde:
“Always forgive your enemies. Nothing annoys them so much.”