A Letter by Father | Santhosh DR

Following is a letter to his daughter from a renowned Hong Kong TV broadcaster and Child Psychologist. The words are actually applicable to all of us, young or old, children or parents.!

This applies to all sons and daughters too. All parents can use this in their teachings to their children.

Dear Children,

I am writing this to you because of 3 reasons

A) Life, fortune and mishaps are unpredictable, nobody knows how long he lives.
B) I am your father, and if I don’t tell you these, no one else will.
C) Whatever written is my own personal bitter experiences that perhaps could save you a lot of unnecessary heartaches.

Remember the following as you go through life

1. Do not bear grudge towards those who are not good to you. No one has the responsibility of treating you well, except your mother and I. To those who are good to you, you have to treasure it and be thankful, and ALSO you have to be cautious, because, everyone has a motive for every move. When a person is good to you, it does not mean he really will be good to you. You have to be careful, don’t hastily regard him as a real friend.

2. No one is indispensable, nothing is in the world that you must possess.
Once you understand this idea, it would be easier for you to go through life when people around you don’t want you anymore, or when you lose what you wanted the most.

3. Life is short. When you waste your life today, tomorrow you would find that life is leaving you. The earlier you treasure your life, the better you enjoy life.

4. Love is nothing but a transient feeling, and this feeling would fade with time and with one’s mood. If your so called loved one leaves you, be patient, time will wash away your aches and sadness.

Don’t over exaggerate the beauty and sweetness of love, and don’t over exaggerate the sadness of falling out of love.

5. A lot of successful people did not receive a good education, that does not mean that you can be successful by not studying hard! Whatever knowledge you gain is your weapon in life.

One can go from rags to riches, but one has to start from some rags!

6. I do not expect you to financially support me when I am old, neither would I financially support your whole life. My responsibility as a supporter ends when you are grown up. After that, you decide whether you want to travel in a public transport or in your limousine, whether rich or poor.

7. You honour your words, but don’t expect others to be so. You can be good to people, but don’t expect people to be good to you. If you don’t understand this, you would end up with unnecessary troubles.

8. I have bought lotteries for umpteen years, but could never strike any prize. That shows if you want to be rich, you have to work hard! There is no free lunch!

9. No matter how much time I have with you, let’s treasure the time we have together. We do not know if we would meet again in our next life.

Your Parents

Read it twice! Ask your son and daughter to read it thrice.

Worth.A.Read!

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​10 Beautiful Life tips that can change your life! #WednesdayWisdom

WORTH READING AGAIN AND AGAIN.
1. Everyone have two Eyes. But No one has the same View.

2. The most important quality of successful people is their willingness to change.

3. Human beings are very strange. They have ego of their knowledge but, they don’t have knowledge of their ego.

4. People who judge do not matter. People who matter do not judge.

5. Alphabet “O” stands for Opportunity which is absent in “Yesterday“, Available only once in “Today” And thrice in “Tomorrow“.

6. “Pain is Unavoidable but, Suffering is Optional.”

7. Never ignore a person who loves and cares for you, because one day you may realize that you’ve lost the moon while counting the stars.

8. Sometimes life doesn’t give you something you want, not because you don’t deserve it, but because you deserve more.

9. If the Road is Beautiful then worry About the Destination, But if the Destination is Beautiful, Then Don’t Worry About The Road!

10. Only messages are not life, but Our life should be a message to others.✌

​Are You With The Right Partner?

During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind replied the author.

Here’s the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle. In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know

WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it!

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a “decision“. Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO! ♥

‘Love’ You Son/Daughter!

One who loves with eyes closed, is a Lover.
One who loves with eyes open, is a Friend.

One who loves with eyes staring, is a Spouse.

One who loves till you close your eyes, is a Mother.

One who loves without an expression in the eyes, is a Father.

Mom and dad

Love Your Parents!

Mother – Introduces you to the world.

Father – Introduces the world to you.
Mother : Gives you life.

Father : Gives you living.
Mother : Makes sure you are not starving.

Father : Makes sure you know the value of starving.
Mother : Personifies Care.

Father : Personifies Responsibility.
Mother : Protects you from a fall

Father : Teaches you to get up from a fall.
Mother : Teaches you walking.

Father : Teaches you walk of life.
Mother : Teaches from her own experiences.

Father : Teaches you to learn from your own experiences.
Mother : Reflects Ideology.

Father : Reflects Reality.
Mother’s love is known to you since birth.

Father’s love is known when you become a Father.

Enjoy what your father says.

Keep loving your mother.